I gave the guys a little dating tough love in my last blog post, so it’s only fair to give the guys some equal time to speak on the state of the midlife singles scene as they see it. I wanted to know how post-50 men feel about dating, so I gathered up a few of my middle-aged guy friends, bought…

I've been married for a little over six months now, and as comfortable as I am around my husband, I still can’t bring myself to burp or fart in front of him. I will do anything to avoid anything intestinal in his presence. This includes holding it in, sucking it up, breathing through it, and…

I didn’t exactly forget, I just lost track of time. My mind was on other things: like figuring out my career path and deciding what I wanted in life. I always dreamed of being a wife and mother, and always operated on the assumption it would happen when it was supposed to, in its own time – whenever…

When I was single I used to wonder about my married friends’ sex lives. How often do they do it? Is it good? Does it stay good? Is married sex better? I always wondered, but never asked-- maybe because I didn’t want to pry, or maybe because I didn’t want to know if the news was bad. I worried.…

And now a few words from Robby Scharf, my late blooming husband: Ah, my wife Treva. I love her like I’ve never loved anyone before. As beautiful as she is talented, she possesses a wonderful ability to convey in words what many of us think, but may not express. Her last blog post, “Women…

Are you in your 40s and just now hitting your stride? Are you in your 50s and just finding your groove? Are you in your 60s or beyond and finally getting your shit together? If so, then you just might be a late bloomer. Congratulations! You are in good company. Other late bloomers include…

Well, I did it. It was the world’s longest walk down the aisle. Only a few yards, but it took a lifetime to get there. It was a journey that had more twists and turns than a Hitchcock movie, more starts and stops than the Indy 500, and more bumps and bruises than a mixed martial arts match. But…

If you look inside my drawers – not those drawers, but yes, those drawers too – you’ll find a lot of beige. Beige underwear, beige bras, beige everything. Nothing too exciting, nothing too fancy, sexy, lacey, or daring, just a lot of functional, practical beige that gets the job done. I…

She was in her early 20s, just off the boat from Scotland; he was in his early 30s, newly transplanted from Brooklyn when they met and married in the 50's. Robby and I will be well into our 50s when we walk down the aisle for the first time. They had a half a handful of relationships before tying…

Ok, so I was the oldest bride at the bridal show, but who cares? Bridal shows are a hoot and I love them! Bridal shows are like carnivals for women, with all kinds of vendors selling their goods - from party rentals to place settings, dresses to DJs, wedding cakes to weight loss products, photography…